.png)
Are You Caught in the Good Girl Trap?
- Antonie Kjosas
- Apr 1
- 3 min read
Have you ever felt like no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough?
Or maybe you find yourself bending over backward to keep the peace - even if it means sacrificing your own needs and feelings?
If so, you might be caught in the 'good girl trap.'
This isn’t just about following rules or being polite.
It’s about feeling like the rules are different for you, like you must work twice as hard just to prove your worth, or that you can’t express your needs without feeling like a burden.
Here are some common signs:
Constant fear of failure or making mistakes.
Feeling the need to prove or justify yourself - over and over again.
Suppressing your emotions to keep others comfortable.
Feeling depleted because you’re always managing others’ feelings or expectations.
Abandoning your own needs just to fit in or avoid conflict.
Sound familiar?
Many women grew up in environments that taught them to be “good” by staying small, quiet, and agreeable - no matter the cost to their well-being.
For many of us, these patterns run deep, shaped by societal expectations and reinforced over time.
And while being kind and considerate is beautiful, constantly molding yourself to fit others’ expectations can leave you feeling disconnected from who you truly are.
You end up:
Second-guessing your desires, wondering if they’re “too much” or “not enough.”
Feeling stuck or depleted, even when everything looks “fine” on the outside.
Yearning to live more authentically but unsure how to break free from the expectations holding you back.
I get it because I’ve been there, too.
And the truth is, escaping the good girl trap isn’t about rebelling or swinging to the opposite extreme.
It’s about reconnecting with your inner voice, trusting your intuition, and allowing yourself to be fully, unapologetically you.
When you finally break free from the good girl conditioning, you stop defining yourself by how well you meet others' expectations or how perfectly you perform.
You no longer stay stuck in the pressure to be great at everything you do or the fear of being only one thing.
Instead, you expand your self-perception, allowing yourself to evolve, experiment, and embrace failure - not as a setback, but as an essential step toward real success.
You rebuild the connection with your intuition, strengthening your ability to trust yourself fully.
No longer looking outside for validation, you intuitively make decisions that align with your values, needs, and purpose. Each choice becomes a reflection of your truth, no longer shaped by fear or the need to prove your worth.
You hold a clear vision of your highest, most authentic self - one that inspires and supports you rather than limits or criticizes.
You embody the deep knowing that you are already enough. Already worthy. Already capable of creating the life you truly desire.
Letting go of the need to justify yourself, you release the silent, hard-working girl who never fails, never disappoints, and never takes up too much space.
You no longer shrink to fit into roles that were never meant for you.
Instead, you accept that being disliked, judged, or misunderstood (at times) is part of living freely and unapologetically.
And in that freedom, you become the woman who is so deeply rooted in her truth that she leads, creates, and impacts with effortless confidence.
No longer seeking permission, no longer waiting for approval - just fully, powerfully, and instinctually herself.
This is why I've created Honestly You. A self-guided course journey crafted to help you reconnect with your intuition and true self.
I didn't create this as a “fix” for who you are, but as a guide to help you rediscover who you’ve always been underneath all the conditioning and expectations.
Honestly You explores the feminine archetypes as a tool, as powerful guides that can help you reconnect with your authentic self.
It’s about expanding your self-perception, embracing your whole, true self, and living a life that feels aligned with your values, needs, and desires.
But keep in mind, it's a journey that extends far beyond the feminine archetypes.
(Right now, I’m sharing early access to my new course journey, Honestly You, exclusively with my email community. If you're not part of the community yet and want to have access to these early experiences and opportunities, you're more than welcome to join - at the bottom of the page 🖤)
Bottom line is, you might be caught in the good girl trap right now.
But there is a way out, a way to reconnect with who you honestly are.
A way that is unique to you.
Comments